JARIELD'S POST @sj-world.net
So I finally decided to write this long post…
Because the truth of the matter is that I feel that Siwon and Donghae’s relationship is one of the most overlooked, underrated and unloved well in fact they are one of the closest… I have been silent for so long, now I think it's about time to express my love on them... Do they have what it takes to surpass the so-called ultimate couples? Yes in fact they have!
If you don’t see Siwon and Donghae are damn close? Then you must be blind then… *raise an eyebrow*
As you might had conclude; I have this undying love for SiHae both individually and together. And I think somehow, I need to explain myself for loving them together… So I shall begin…
I feel like SIHae has the most NATURAL and ORDINARY friendship/brotherhood in Super Junior.
It’s natural because their relationship does not need any sob stories, or cheesy moments that they have to share in their interviews, or flowery words to describe their relationship with one another *coughs* SiHan *coughs* EunHae….
The way they act around each other is also carefree and casual. Like how it is so natural for Siwon to swing an arm around Donghae and how naturally will Donghae hold Siwon’s hand afterwards. And to me, these simple gestures appeared to be done unconsciously. It’s pretty much like something that happens regularly.
It is ordinary in the sense that it is the kind of bond that you could see anywhere. It is something that is not caught up in the realm of fantasy and idealness like soulmates and destiny. *coughs* y’all know what I’m talking about *coughs*… If I don’t know them and I will see them in the public; I could pinpoint that they are great friends, brothers even in just a glance. They have this aura. Their friendship is something that everybody has. I don’t see it as something like “oh my god, their friendship is so special that I wish there is more.” “I admire their relationship, it is so unreal” “they have this bond that not everyone can have, theirs are special” “there is just something about them that are meant to be together”… *”I know right?” rolls eyes* For me, Siwon and Donghae’s relationship is something that I also share with my fair amount of friends, brothers and sisters even…I think the whole SJ Brotherhood is, it’s just SiHae is not as tainted as the others. In a way, I could say that SiHae embodies the reality of what friendship really is in real life. Just like what I said, it is so ordinary. But when you look at it, what makes it ordinary actually makes it more special.
And you dare to ask me how the hell I could say those bullshit things I had written above? Do I have a proof? I think I have. Although, what you will read next are bunch of careful observations…
Siwon and Donghae’s relationship is obviously not the most mainstreamed. It does not have enough publicity. Obviously, there are far more interviews and convos asking about Donghae’s relationship with Hyukjae, or Siwon’s relationship with Hankyung. Of course, they get published, then fan girls will read it, and the rest is history... But that is mass media, it is very manipulative. And definitely, I am pretty sure that majority of it are done for propaganda purposes. I’m not saying it’s not true, they are I believe 100% true. It’s just that, why they are asked and told is a different story.
To be completely honest, I actually prefer it that SiHae isn’t mainstreamed. Although SiHan and EunHae stories could somehow make you squeal and touch your heart in a way. For me, there is nothing sweeter to see a relationship that surfaces in my eyes. It gives some sort of enigma that you want to know more rather than feeding you everything right off the bank. After all, action speaks louder than voice.
SiHae interactions are just simple. Like how Siwon and Donghae goof around in radio/tv shows…Noted that Siwon is the gentleman type but he became more childish when Hae is around. Noted that Hae can be an introvert but could also get louder than ever when Siwon is with him. Like how they are regular “Whisper Buddies”… Sometimes I even feel bad for a person beside them *and yes, there are a lot of times Hankyung or Eunhyuk is that person. And still SIHae is caught up in their own world not bothering the other person*. And I don’t even know if they will run out of topic anytime. They even have the habit to write secret messages in paper. Those moments are pretty natural and ordinary; but these are adorable nonetheless.
Hot and Cold, that is probably another way to describe their relationship. They do bond together, but they do have their childish fights as well. Especially in Siwon’s part, because he somehow can be specifically be mean and harsh to Donghae alone. Actually, EunSiHae fight a lot. But whether EunHae and SiHyuk fight the way SiHae does, it’s a different story… SiHyuk does not necessarily fight much, Siwon just loves to bully Hyuk once in a while. EunHae fights are rather childish like children fighting over an ice cream. SiHae fights are also childish, but it also comes off as both bitchy and witty.
Even if SiHae always bully Hyuk together, I find them gentler with Hyuk than with each other. They will bicker and fight one minute and then they are cool the next. This is pretty much evident in Super Summer, where Donghae is always trying to piss Siwon and Siwon will bite the trap and argue back with Donghae. Separately, they are calmer; but together they change into storms. And it’s a little odd that even if they fight, they will still accompany each other.
And they certainly love to gossip and tell secrets with one another, they will always find a way to communicate even if there is a person between them. This is very evident in SJM interviews like how most of the times they will talk behind Hangeng, then laugh afterwards. Laughing, that is one thing that SiHae always do. It’s like there is always something that they will laugh about every now and then *Sukira moments?*. Or even in fancams, they will just whisper to each other or write notes and then they will laugh while the rest are serious. Sometimes they won’t just talk at all but look at each other and laugh. It seems like they have their own language that they could only understand. Now that is friendship.
You know how EunHae fans claim that Donghae loves Eunhyuk than Hyuk loves him, or that Hae loves Hyuk more than anyone? Or that SiHanChul fans claim that Siwon is more caring and protective to Hankyung and Heechul. Well, I know where they are coming from. And obviously, both Siwon and Donghae are the affectionate type. I know Donghae loves to pester Hyuk all the time especially when Hyuk has a problem he’s not saying. And I know how Siwon takes care of Hankyung because he’s a foreigner. But I’m also very aware how Siwon will try to rescue Donghae in an instant when Hae is about to cry; or how Donghae also takes care of Siwon in I say kinda “motherly” way. And I must say, they let each other do that with another. Bottomline, Hyukjae isn’t the only one who Hae takes good care of or that Siwon does not only receive motherly care from Hankyung.
One moment is during Hae’s bday when they are filming Marry U. Siwon literally grabbed Hae’s face to wipe the threatening tears... And there was a clip in Sukira, where KiHae had a fight. And Donghae just went to Siwon to find some support and warmth. Note that Hyuk is also there; but Hae chose Siwon instead and kinda even ignore Hyuk…. I think one of my favorite is the one that occur in the Dream Team filming where Hae kinda get emotional. Eunhyuk came to comfort him, little Fishy shove him off, Minho came next and he did the same. But when Siwon was the one who came and comfort him; Donghae just let him be. That was a major awww…. *I know I’m a lil bit evil but I think one of the reason why I like it is because it was a lil bit anti EunHae/MinHae*
I think, when Donghae’s down; he goes to Siwon. Well I couldn’t blame him, Siwon does have strong arms and he’s a lil more comfortable… OMG, it’s coming out… I have to say this... I think Donghae fits PERFECTLY in Siwon’s arms. When Siwon embraces Hae, it looks so effortless and beautiful.
In SiHae, there was an impression that Donghae is a child, and that Siwon is the one who takes care of him. Well, sometimes the roles are reversed. Just like how in EHB where Siwon said he’s going to eat the world’s hottest pepper. Of course, we are all aware Siwon couldn’t take spicy food. Then Donghae suddenly said “Just three times then”. And he said it quite firm like he is scolding Siwon. And even in Dream Team filming, just how adorable it is to see Donghae draping the towel in Siwon. Awww…. Donghae does care about Siwon a lot.
I think I have said quite a lot already about how I perceive SiHae’s bond. So, I guess I’ll just have to have my final say about them.
SiHae is the kind of deep bond that doesn’t need a reason. I wouldn’t call it destiny. I wouldn’t say they are made to be together. They are just two people who happen to meet in some place and time and just develop friendship along the line. They are friends(brothers) just because….
Reading this post, it may appear I’m an EunHae and SiHan hater. Which is kinda true now. After some time, I kinda got sick with the overrating. But for the record, my OT3’s are EunSiHae and HanSiHae respectively. I still adore EunHae and SiHan. But since a lot of people are kinda labeling them as “exclusive” for one another; I kinda feel sad about it. That’s why SiHae has kinda fill out my heart now; because aside from they are my top two biases *sorry Han Geng*, they are also so unloved.
Do you know how frustrating it is for a SiHae shipper to see EunHae and SiHanChul comments in almost every video even how minimal it is while I spot some SiHae *either minimal or grand*but no one notices it but me? Or in a SiHae moment and it just so happens Hyuk is there, and then you’ll get to read “Eunhyuk is jealous” or “Get out Siwon, Hae belongs to Hyuk”…? It’s kinda heartbreaking… It’s true, I find some EunHae and SiHan shippers who admits or accepted SiHae’s closeness. But dude, they need more than mere acceptance. So I guess I’ll be one of the few who will fill up that love. This also goes to SiHyuk and HanHae love train.
If you ever came to read this part of my post, then you might have read all those bullshits above. So, for the one who is reading… Tnx for even giving an ample of your time to read my “rant?”. It means a lot to me.
Anyways, I would love to dedicate this song to SiHae… I think in a way it suit them…